FAQ's


Where did you get the name "Waking Up on the Toilet"?

How can Therapy Help me?

Do I really need therapy? I can usually handle my problems.

Why do people go to therapy and how do I know if it is right for me?

What is Therapy like?

What about medication vs. psychotherapy?

Do you take insurance, and how does that work?

Where did you get the name “Waking Up On the Toilet”?

The name Waking Up on the Toilet comes from the idea that there is a difference between living life and experiencing life. It is a concept to explain the benefits of fully learning from one's life lesson. We believe that when you experience life one is able to feel all emotions with great intensity, by doing so one can then gain knowledge from the experience and continue growing into a healthy person. It is ability to flush the negative experience down the toilet, which allows the person to move forward in their life. It is also the title of a book that Aliya Fonseca wrote and will be published

What does it mean to Wake Up On the Toilet?

To be released / purged from a negative experience; by flushing the experience down the toilet, one purifies oneself, transforming that experience into a positive one. To become enlightened and learn from one’s lessons. Hopefully not repeating them in the future. 

Who is the founder of “Waking Up On the Toilet”?

It was founded in 1991 by Aliya Fonseca after her grandmother’s passing.

What is the goal of “Waking Up On the Toilet”?

To increase human understanding by assisting others in publishing works that unite mankind.  

Is there a cure for Waking Up On the Toilet?

Unfortunately no, as long as you live (and possibly beyond that) you will have instances of “Waking Up On the Toilet”.

How can Therapy Help me?

A number of benefits are available from participating in therapy. Therapists can provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies for issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship troubles, unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress management, body image issues and creative blocks. Many people also find that counselors can be a tremendous asset to managing personal growth, interpersonal relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, and the hassles of daily life. Therapists can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn. Some of the benefits available from therapy include:

  • Attaining a better understanding of yourself, your goals and values
  • Developing skills for improving your relationships
  • Finding resolution to the issues or concerns that led you to seek therapy
  • Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
  • Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
  • Improving communications and listening skills
  • Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
  • Discovering new ways to solve problems in your family or marriage
  • Improving your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence

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Do I really need therapy? I can usually handle my problems.

Everyone goes through challenging situations in life, and while you may have successfully navigated through other difficulties you've faced, there's nothing wrong with seeking out extra support when you need it. In fact, therapy is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired. You are taking responsibility by accepting where you're at in life and making a commitment to change the situation by seeking therapy. Therapy provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face.

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Why do people go to therapy and how do I know if it is right for me?

People have many different motivations for coming to psychotherapy. Some may be going through a major life transition (unemployment, divorce, new job, etc.), or are not handling stressful circumstances well. Some people need assistance managing a range of other issues such as low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, addictions, relationship problems, spiritual conflicts and creative blocks. Therapy can help provide some much needed encouragement and help with skills to get them through these periods. Others may be at a point where they are ready to learn more about themselves or want to be more effective with their goals in life. In short, people seeking psychotherapy are ready to meet the challenges in their lives and ready to make changes in their lives.

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What is Therapy like?

Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different depending on the individual. In general, you can expect to discuss the current events happening in your life, your personal history relevant to your issue, and report progress (or any new insights gained) from the previous therapy session. Depending on your specific needs, therapy can be short-term, for a specific issue, or longer-term, to deal with more difficult patterns or your desire for more personal development. Either way, it is most common to schedule regular sessions with your therapist (usually weekly).

It is important to understand that you will get more results from therapy if you actively participate in the process. The ultimate purpose of therapy is to help you bring what you learn in session back into your life. Therefore, beyond the work you do in therapy sessions, your therapist may suggest some things you can do outside of therapy to support your process - such as reading a pertinent book, journaling on specific topics, noting particular behaviors or taking action on your goals. People seeking psychotherapy are ready to make positive changes in their lives, are open to new perspectives and take responsibility for their lives.

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What about medication vs. psychotherapy?

It is well established that the long-term solution to mental and emotional problems and the pain they cause cannot be solved solely by medication. Instead of just treating the symptom, therapy addresses the cause of our distress and the behavior patterns that curb our progress. You can best achieve sustainable growth and a greater sense of well-being with an integrative approach to wellness. Working with your medical doctor you can determine what's best for you, and in some cases a combination of medication and therapy is the right course of action.

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Do you take insurance, and how does that work?

To determine if you have mental health coverage through your insurance carrier, the first thing you should do is call them. Check your coverage carefully and make sure you understand their answers. Some helpful questions you can ask them:

  • What are my mental health benefits?
  • What is the coverage amount per therapy session?
  • How many therapy sessions does my plan cover?
  • How much does my insurance pay for an out-of-network provider?
  • Is approval required from my primary care physician?

Confidentiality is one of the most important components between a client and psychotherapist. Successful therapy requires a high degree of trust with highly sensitive subject matter that is usually not discussed anywhere but the therapist's office. Every therapist should provide a written copy of their confidential disclosure agreement, and you can expect that what you discuss in session will not be shared with anyone. This is called “Informed Consent”. Sometimes, however, you may want your therapist to share information or give an update to someone on your healthcare team (your Physician, Naturopath, Attorney), but by law your therapist cannot release this information without obtaining your written permission.

However, state law and professional ethics require therapists to maintain confidentiality except for the following situations:

* Suspected past or present abuse or neglect of children, adults, and elders requires therapists to report to the authorities, including Child Protection and law enforcement, based on information provided by the client or collateral sources.

* If the therapist has reason to suspect the client is seriously in danger of harming him/herself or has threatened to harm another person.

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My areas of expertise include depression, anxiety, couples & family therapy, relationship and intimacy issues, addictions and recovery, stress and anger management, work-related, immigration, and life-transition issues. Our focus is on health, well-being, growth and healing as well as problem prevention, rather than on a "mental illness" orientation.

Our approach is interactive cognitive-behavioral, directive and solution-focused. My approach is also informed by a "Humanistic Transpersonal" orientation. Empathy is essential; my clients are the primary experts concerning their goals, values and needs.

Everything you share with me is confidential unless you are in danger or plan on doing harm to yourself, a minor or an elder.

If you have a co-pay you are informed of this before treatment begins and is due at time of service.

We will employ all appropriate therapeutic techniques to assist in your healing process.


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